What a day! My poor husband pulled something in his back yesterday and woke up very early this morning in agony. I felt so bad. 5:30 AM and rubbing icy hot cream on his poor side, handing him some pain relief. Unfortunately, I awoke again to him telling me he never got back to sleep. We didn't go to church due to his pain but we worshiped in our own way.
We also went to Roanoke today to visit with my husband's family. We started our trip with a little ray of sunshine: my husband's goddaughter and her family. Her parents are amazing and she is our little ray of Sunshine. Just like our Little Man, Sunshine means everything to us. She can bring a smile to our faces and I love watching her mother light up. I hope we don't stay too far from Sunshine for too long. I hope to see her more regularly.
We then had dinner with my in-law family. My sister-in-law and her husband recently revealed that the will be moving to Ohio and taking my two little nieces with them. As you can probably imagine, this is a hard hit to the family particularly so since they have lived in close proximity to the family unit for the majority of their marriage. Tonight definitely had its moments but it had its laughter, tears and pain.
More than likely, the most valuable thing I learned today, though, was on the way home. We were near our home and deep in conversation when suddenly, I see two deer start to move into the road. I slam on the brakes, my husband bracing himself for impending impact while I hope my brakes take. We stop just in time, only for me to turn and, in my state of anxiety, say some harsh words to my husband. After some moments of silence, I turned and very quietly apologized. I explained that although I knew he was startled by the moment that his explanations did not help me when I was trying to maintain a calm demeanor. But then again, why do I always have to be calm?
The ocean is always seen as the epitome of soothing and calm nature and disposition. But even the ocean can become rocky and unpleasant to see. While it does not need to define me, I can't continue to hide my emotions for the sake of those around me. Even the calm Laura has emotions outside of joy. I let a little of that lose on Friday at work (not outwardly lashing but by demeanor).
A few notes in closing: Little Man, we miss you immensely. I know you are really enjoying your time with the Doctor but you need to know that your daddy and stepmom really love and miss you. We hold an open door for you at all times in our home and our hearts. Please know we are always there for you.
Sunshine, you and your parents are welcomed friends and family to us. It was so lovely to see you all and I hope we get to see you again very soon.
In-Laws: Thank you for such a lovely evening. Though it may have been laden with some sadness and a knowing of what is to come in a few short weeks, it was still sweet to share the time we have together as we did.
My husband: You do more for me than you may ever realize and know. I love you with all my heart and can't wait to share each and every day with you...including tomorrow morning's walk
But as for tonight....Hazelnut spread on toast!! And enjoying this thing called "La Vie."
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Tuesday, April 30, 2013
The (D)Evolution of Sex
Over the span of time, sex has evolved in its meaning, acceptance and description. Sex in itself has a dual definition. Not only does it define the act of mating and reproduction taken on by the majority of species (with the exception of asexual beings), it is also defined as the biological makeup and organs of an organism as one of the two major forms of individuals that occur in many species. For all intensive purposes of this post, sex will be referring to the act of reproduction that commonly occurs within a species. The second definition of sex is room enough for another post by itself.
In the beginning of time, sex and the act of mating in the human species is characterized by the act of a caveman hitting a woman over the head and dragging her back to his cave. It was a more primal instinct. While that still is within our being, the modernity has changed the acceptance of this practice to being void. But when there were few people on the Earth, the reasoning behind sex was to populate the world. The picture of the caveman could also be an explanation of expanding the gene pool, as well as an expression of power.
This expression of power did not become extinct with the evolution of the species. On the contrary, it was adopted as a ready expression and method of warfare. Along with this, pedophilia was adopted in early armies, especially found within the Greek armies. I will not speak much on this as I would have to do extensive further research to have a better understand as to the reasoning behind. But sex as an expression of warfare had primal reasons. You breed them out. This is why warfare is sometimes connected with the phrase "rape and pillage." You steal their wealth and impregnate the women, the nation has in effect lost a piece of its identity. What is more, the winners write history. Whenever you read history or study history, consider that half of the story is not expressed from anyone's view but the victors and that there is always two sides.
There has been records during WW2 that when foreigners stepped foot on Japan, whole families were found to be dead in their homes. Women were told that if invaded, they would be taken and raped, the ultimate disgrace against honor and the family. As a result, they would kill themselves to avoid their bodies and bloodline being defiled. War, rape, sex and self-protection has at some point in time been intertwined together.
To this day, there is a battle occurring with power and sex intermixed. Rape is a prominent under belly of society. And rape is nothing other than power. There is nothing sexual influencing the "choice" to rape a woman (or a man, as they too can be raped). Men can be raped. It is still an act of power. This is a major issue in society. There are mixed signals expressed by society. The media depicts women as objects, as something to be demeaned, taken advantage of and torn apart. Then the act of rape is wrong. Is it any wonder that there is possible ingrained confusion in our youth? The popular media objectifies women and has lyrics glorifying the act of rape while the law reads that it is wrong.
Women at one time were nothing more than living, breathing property, to be bought, sold and traded. To be treated as cattle, where the "rule of thumb" came into play on the steps of Town Hall. Dowry was paid to husbands. Women were expected to carry, bear and keep children and house. They had no rights and no privileges in society. While much of this role in society has changed, equal rights still do not exist. In my blunt opinion, it will not exist until I can finally walk down a street in a seemingly safe neighborhood without fear for myself. And yes, I have had that fear even while in college, on campus.
Sex is ever evolving. The definition of what is acceptable within the sex world is constantly changing, including accepted acts with items, such as dolls (NatGeo "Taboo" had an episode based on the attraction to dolls, robots or inanimate objects). But there is never excuse for rape. My jeans may be tight and my dress may graze the top of my knee. But that is no reason to say "She was asking for it." Too many women have been subjected to this horrifying crime and will continue to be subjected until we change our societal perception and address the situation accordingly. Instead of teaching how to avoid being raped, why not teach NOT to rape?
I believe I have gone on a sufficient rant for the day. I must get ready for work but please keep in mind when read this that no deep research has gone into this posting. This is just a collection of observations and studies and lectures over the years of education. I hope you all enjoy this thing called "La Vie."
In the beginning of time, sex and the act of mating in the human species is characterized by the act of a caveman hitting a woman over the head and dragging her back to his cave. It was a more primal instinct. While that still is within our being, the modernity has changed the acceptance of this practice to being void. But when there were few people on the Earth, the reasoning behind sex was to populate the world. The picture of the caveman could also be an explanation of expanding the gene pool, as well as an expression of power.
This expression of power did not become extinct with the evolution of the species. On the contrary, it was adopted as a ready expression and method of warfare. Along with this, pedophilia was adopted in early armies, especially found within the Greek armies. I will not speak much on this as I would have to do extensive further research to have a better understand as to the reasoning behind. But sex as an expression of warfare had primal reasons. You breed them out. This is why warfare is sometimes connected with the phrase "rape and pillage." You steal their wealth and impregnate the women, the nation has in effect lost a piece of its identity. What is more, the winners write history. Whenever you read history or study history, consider that half of the story is not expressed from anyone's view but the victors and that there is always two sides.
There has been records during WW2 that when foreigners stepped foot on Japan, whole families were found to be dead in their homes. Women were told that if invaded, they would be taken and raped, the ultimate disgrace against honor and the family. As a result, they would kill themselves to avoid their bodies and bloodline being defiled. War, rape, sex and self-protection has at some point in time been intertwined together.
To this day, there is a battle occurring with power and sex intermixed. Rape is a prominent under belly of society. And rape is nothing other than power. There is nothing sexual influencing the "choice" to rape a woman (or a man, as they too can be raped). Men can be raped. It is still an act of power. This is a major issue in society. There are mixed signals expressed by society. The media depicts women as objects, as something to be demeaned, taken advantage of and torn apart. Then the act of rape is wrong. Is it any wonder that there is possible ingrained confusion in our youth? The popular media objectifies women and has lyrics glorifying the act of rape while the law reads that it is wrong.
Women at one time were nothing more than living, breathing property, to be bought, sold and traded. To be treated as cattle, where the "rule of thumb" came into play on the steps of Town Hall. Dowry was paid to husbands. Women were expected to carry, bear and keep children and house. They had no rights and no privileges in society. While much of this role in society has changed, equal rights still do not exist. In my blunt opinion, it will not exist until I can finally walk down a street in a seemingly safe neighborhood without fear for myself. And yes, I have had that fear even while in college, on campus.
Sex is ever evolving. The definition of what is acceptable within the sex world is constantly changing, including accepted acts with items, such as dolls (NatGeo "Taboo" had an episode based on the attraction to dolls, robots or inanimate objects). But there is never excuse for rape. My jeans may be tight and my dress may graze the top of my knee. But that is no reason to say "She was asking for it." Too many women have been subjected to this horrifying crime and will continue to be subjected until we change our societal perception and address the situation accordingly. Instead of teaching how to avoid being raped, why not teach NOT to rape?
I believe I have gone on a sufficient rant for the day. I must get ready for work but please keep in mind when read this that no deep research has gone into this posting. This is just a collection of observations and studies and lectures over the years of education. I hope you all enjoy this thing called "La Vie."
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